Kevin Salwen on Culture
My wife and I threw a holiday party at our house last weekend. The party itself was fine -- people ate, drank and seemed to have a good time. That's not the point of this post; I writing instead about invitations. We personally invited 115 singles and couples, the mail obviously from an individual since each envelope had our name in the return-address corner.
As of the day before the party, 55 people had responded. I don't mean 55 people had said yes; we got 55 total responses, yes and no. Put another way, more than half the invitees never said a word.
That had us scratching our heads. How the hell do you buy cocktails, prepare food or plan when you don't know if 50% of the invited guests are coming? So, early Friday morning, I sent a followup email to the nonresponders, telling them we hoped they were coming, but to please let us know either way. I got 4 emails back -- two nos, one yes, one I can't open your attachment (which said the same thing as the body of the email, a polite version of 'Are you coming, nonanswerer?').
The party was a success, the turnout was good (none of the nonresponders showed up). But what's going on here? Is this normal? Have people become so callous that being invited to a party no longer requires a reply?